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CONFRATERNITY MEDITATION FOR OCTOBER 5

He who says, I cannot tolerate," shows his smallness; he who says, "I cannot endure," shows his weakness; he who says, "I cannot associate," shows his limitation; he who says, "I cannot forgive," shows his imperfection. Gayan of Hazrat Inayat Khan

Annotation by Cherag Hamid Cecil Orion Touchon

“What is it to have self-discipline? It is to be able to say, 'I can' and not 'I cannot'. No doubt the words 'I cannot' are often used when a person does not think it would be wise or just to do a certain thing. In that case it is different. But when there is something he believes to be just, to be good, to be right and he still thinks, 'I cannot', it is then that self-discipline is lacking. When a person says, 'I cannot tolerate, I cannot endure, I cannot bear, I cannot forgive', these are all signs of lack of self-discipline.
Some people say, 'I cannot rise above my faults.' The only way to overcome one's faults is by struggle, struggle in the spiritual path. Such a struggle is faced for instance by a person who during a disagreeable conversation has an inclination to retort; he does so, but at the same time the power to fight, to give back, has left him. By dispersing his force in returning insult for insult he has lost his power. By controlling this inclination his power would have been a thousand-fold greater, although at the moment when something like this happens, and one humiliates oneself and crushes one's pride and one's self, one feels crushed both ways: by not answering and then by the crushing of one's self” The Sufi Message of Hazrat Inayat Khan – The Alchemy of Happiness – The Path of Attainment

2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 
3 Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 
4 There is one body and one Spirit-- just as you were called to one hope when you were called-- 
5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 
6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all. Christian - New Testament - Ephesians Chaper 4 

8 Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. 
9 Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit  a blessing. Christian - New Testament - First Book of Peter - Chapter 3

A Fikr Practice (silent breath meditation)

However many breathes seem appropriate

On the in breath 
"SEND US THE PEACE OF THY DIVINE SPIRIT"

On the out breath: 
"UNITE US ALL IN THY PERFECT BEING"

Use this breathing practice throughout the day when you feel irritated or impatient with others.